In a month, I will be turning 24 years old hence I decided that now would be a great time to list down 23 Life Lessons I Learned during my 23 years of existence. It wasn’t an easy journey. I can’t say that it was just a walk in the park when it felt like a run through a field of land mines with bullets flying all over from the sides. I’m so glad to have survived that, and still surviving at the moment.
I hope you’ll find this list inspiring. 😉
- “Give attention to what is right in your life than what is wrong.”
There’s really no point in dwelling on the unfortunate things that happen in our lives. By doing so, we will only drag ourselves into feelings of helplessness.If there is a solution for your problem, then it’s really not a problem right? There’s always a way around things that we can try if we just look at the situation from a different perspective.
If we can’t find a solution to the problem we are facing, then there’s really nothing much we can do and dwelling on it isn’t going to help anyone. However, you can always ask for another person’s help or advice. You aren’t alone. There are people who are always ready to help you.
- You don’t have to understand everything immediately. If you are patient enough, time will tell you everything that you need to know.
A lot of things happened when I was 22 years old that I didn’t understand until I reached 23 years old. One day, it just clicked in my mind why those things had to happen. It’s all good.
- Family always comes first. Since I am busy working now, I always make it a point to find some time to bond with my parents and other extended relatives. Family is important. Your family will be there for you when everyone has abandoned you. Sure, it may not be rainbows and butterflies all the time, but your family are a constant factor in your life. It doesn’t hurt to have or maintain a good relationship with them.
- Drama is a no no.
Drama is okay in small doses as it keeps everyday interesting, but if your life starts feeling like a TV series, it may be time to cut the subscription. 😉
- Life doesn’t always happen as you plan it to be, but sometimes it turns out much better than anything you could have planned.
- “When God shows you its time to let someone go and you refuse to, He will allow the person to hurt you to the point where you have no choice but to let go.”
Sad as this is, it’s true. Humans are stubborn by nature. We do what we think is best for us, even if it’s obviously not the best for us. This is especially true during the time when I decided to stay with my cheating ex-boyfriend, and also with some of my toxic friends. There are situations in our lives when we can feel like someone is telling us that it’s time to let go but we refuse to. Holding onto something hurts more sometimes than just letting go and letting things flow on their own.
If someone wants to stay in your life, they will. ❤
- Focus on yourself more.
- If someone is being toxic to you, you have the right to cut them off.
It may be hard and you may come off as a heartless person, but you have to do it. I have toxic relatives who I decided to just cut off since all they bring to the table is anger and close-mindedness. In order to keep my sanity, I just cut them off and refuse to let them back into my life if they can’t change the way that they act and think. Tough love, yo!
- Manners is everything.
- “Aside from your beauty, what else do you have to offer?”
This hits so hard at home. People nowadays(myself included) tend to be too focused on how they look on the outside that they forget that it is more important to have something more than just a good looking outer shell. You can be very beautiful but if you can’t carry a good conversation, or if you seem so lost about different topics. A person can be beautiful and so much more. Let’s not limit ourselves to just looking good.
- Listen to your gut instinct. If it tells you something is off, investigate and keep a watchful eye.
- Read up on a lot of books and topics. 😉 Nothing beats being well-read.
- Sometimes it’s you who destroys you. We need to take notice of the quality of our thoughts. Sometimes, I’m the only one who makes me unsure of myself by constantly comparing myself to other people, which is not a good practice I know. So right now, I’m trying to do the “Thought Stopping Technique” wherein every time I think of something not beneficial to me, I divert my attention elsewhere. It’s in the process but it seems to work little by little.
- Take time for your interests and hobbies.
- Listening to the news and being aware of what’s happening around you is important. Just because you don’t live in Africa, Afghanistan, etc., doesn’t mean that you won’t be affected by what’s happening there and maybe you can think of something that will allow you to help with little things. It doesn’t necessarily have to be financial aid. Just helping spread the word or raise awareness about a certain injustice can do so much.
- Sometimes you meet the love of your life at 23, and end up marrying them. ❤ 😉
Love knows no age.
- You can give advice to your friends and family, but in the end they will do what they think is good for them or for the situation even if you think its the wrong move. You have to be okay with this and allow people to decide on their own. The only one you can control is you.
Just be there for them and don’t tell them: ‘I told you so.’
- Do not make drastic decisions or actions when you are at the height of your emotions. Allow time for your emotions to subside first then you will be able to think clearly.
- Learn how to manage your money. You worked hard for the money you are earning, don’t let it go to waste. 🙂
- Loving yourself is important but loving God is better. We often hear the advice to love ourselves, there is nothing wrong with this, but remember that too much self love can lead to pride and a huge ego. 😉
- Find ways to secure your financial future. Dream big!
- Action prove someone’s love more than words ever can. This is the same with someone’s intentions. Be watchful! However, this doesn’t mean that words aren’t important too! We should learn how to balance our words with our actions.
- Learning doesn’t stop at 23. There’s so much more to learn about! Now that you have an income and hopefully free time, you can take up classes on topics you are interested in. Don’t limit your learning to just what you learned from school. 🙂
What are some life lessons that you would like to share? I’m sure that you have some interesting ones too!